Let’s be honest—sleep becomes a distant memory once you bring a newborn home! The round-the-clock feedings, diaper changes, and soothing sessions can leave you feeling utterly exhausted. And if you already have another child in the mix, juggling it all can feel like a superhuman task. But don’t worry—you’re not alone! Many moms manage to navigate this phase, and while it’s not easy, there are ways to make sleep (or at least some form of rest) more manageable during this busy time.
Here are some friendly tips to help you catch some extra Z’s and cope with those sleepless nights—whether you’re a first-time mom or already have a little one at home.
1. Nap When the Baby Naps (Yes, Even with Another Child)
It might sound impossible if you have a toddler or preschooler running around, but try to rest when your newborn naps. Get creative—set up some quiet time activities like puzzles, coloring, or an age-appropriate movie for your older child while you catch a quick nap or simply rest on the couch. Even short 20-minute power naps can recharge your batteries.
Expert Advice: If napping isn’t an option, take advantage of moments to rest or relax, even if it’s just closing your eyes for a few minutes. Every little bit helps!
2. Involve Your Older Child in Caring for the Baby
If you have another child, they might love feeling involved in caring for their new sibling. Encourage them to help with small tasks like grabbing a diaper, singing to the baby, or “reading” them a story. Not only does this keep your older child engaged, but it also frees up your hands (and your mind) for a few moments.
Expert Advice: Let your older child “help” in simple ways, but don’t stress about making everything perfect. It’s more about keeping them occupied and connected.
3. Share the Load with Your Partner or Family
If you have a partner, family member, or friend who can help, take full advantage! Ask them to pitch in with nighttime feedings, diaper changes, or caring for your older child so you can grab some rest. Even just one uninterrupted stretch of sleep can make a big difference.
Expert Advice: If you’re breastfeeding, consider pumping a bottle or two so someone else can handle one of the night feedings, or have your partner take over early morning duties with your older child.
4. Set Up a Cozy Sleep Environment for You and the Baby
When it’s finally time to sleep, make your space as cozy and restful as possible. Keep your room dark, quiet, and cool to create an environment that encourages deep sleep for both you and your baby. If your older child wakes up during the night too, try to keep their room or sleep area calm and cozy to encourage longer stretches of sleep.
Expert Advice: Set up a comfortable spot for middle-of-the-night feedings, like a cozy chair, and if your older child comes in during the night, try a quick “snuggle and settle” routine to help them go back to sleep.
5. Create a Simple Routine for Both Kids
Establishing a nighttime routine for your newborn and your older child can help create a calming environment that signals bedtime. For your older child, involve them in helping get ready for bed with things like a bath, story time, and quiet play. Keeping things consistent helps both children wind down—and gives you some predictability in your day.
Expert Advice: Even if your newborn isn’t on a strict routine yet, having a predictable bedtime process for your older child can make evenings smoother and help you relax more.
6. Take Turns with Nighttime Duties
If you and your partner are both running on empty, consider alternating nights where one of you is on “baby duty” and the other gets a solid stretch of sleep. If you also have a toddler or preschooler waking up at night, take turns attending to them so that both parents get a chance to rest.
Expert Advice: Tag-team parenting at night can really help you stay sane and feel supported, especially when both a newborn and an older child are keeping you on your toes.
7. Go to Bed Early
With multiple kids, going to bed early might feel unrealistic, but it’s worth a try! If your older child goes to bed at a set time, try to follow their lead and get to bed as soon as possible. Even if your newborn wakes up frequently, going to bed early gives you a better chance at getting more total sleep.
Expert Advice: Don’t feel guilty about going to bed right after your older child’s bedtime routine—it’s a great way to sneak in extra rest when you can!
8. Keep Your Expectations in Check
It’s easy to feel like you have to be supermom—keeping the house spotless, running errands, cooking, and caring for both your kids—but this isn’t the time to expect perfection. Lower your expectations, and give yourself permission to let some things slide. It’s okay if the laundry isn’t done or dinner is takeout. Focus on what’s most important: your well-being and your family’s.
Expert Advice: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, ask for help from family or friends. Whether it’s taking your older child for a playdate or helping with chores, every little bit of support helps.
9. Create Quiet Time for Your Older Child
If your older child has outgrown naps, establish a quiet time during the day when they can play independently or relax while you rest. Provide them with books, puzzles, or calming activities to keep them occupied so you can recharge—even if it’s just for 20 minutes.
Expert Advice: Make quiet time a part of your daily routine so your older child understands it’s time for them to play calmly, and you can get a little break.
Balancing Rest with Two (or More) Kids
Juggling a newborn and another child is no easy feat, but finding moments to rest and recharge is key to surviving this sleepless phase. Whether it’s taking naps when you can, creating routines, or leaning on others for help, remember that you’re doing an amazing job. Prioritize your well-being, ask for support, and remember—this stage won’t last forever. With a little patience and a few strategies, you’ll find your rhythm and catch those extra Z’s, one way or another.