Kirsten Fisch
Co-Founder at - Momentum Health NetworkKirsten Fisch, MSN, RNC-MNN, IBCLC, LCCE Kirsten is a women's health nurse who specializes in high-risk pregnancy and postpartum care. She is certified in Maternal Newborn Nursing, a board-certified lactation consultant (IBCLC), and a Lamaze-certified childbirth Educator. She works with women from conception through postpartum. Passionate about empowering women during their reproductive journeys, Kirsten combines evidence-based care with compassionate support to promote health and well-being for mothers and babies.
Bringing a new baby into the world is an extraordinary experience, but it also comes with its fair share of adjustments, especially when it comes to intimacy. Between sleepless nights, round-the-clock feedings, and the physical and emotional recovery from childbirth, reconnecting with your partner might feel like an impossible task. However, intimacy is an important part of a relationship, and with intentional effort, it is possible to nurture your bond even in this new season of life.
Understanding the Changes
After having a baby, intimacy often takes a backseat. Hormonal shifts, physical healing, exhaustion, and the demands of parenting can all impact your desire and ability to connect with your partner in the same way as before. Acknowledging these changes and approaching them with patience and open communication is essential. Every couple’s timeline will look different, and that’s okay.
Prioritizing Connection
Intimacy is more than just physical closeness—it’s also about emotional connection. Finding small ways to stay connected can strengthen your relationship while you adjust to parenthood. Try these simple yet meaningful actions:
- Small gestures of affection – Holding hands, hugging, or a quick kiss can help maintain closeness.
- Check in with each other – Ask how your partner feels, what they need, and how you can support each other.
- Share moments of gratitude – Express appreciation for the little things your partner does to support you and the baby.
Making Time for Physical Intimacy
Once you feel ready to reintroduce physical intimacy, it’s okay to take it slow. Consider these tips to ease back into a comfortable rhythm:
- Communicate openly – Talk about any intimacy fears, concerns, or desires.
- Be flexible – Intimacy might look different now—quick moments of connection may replace long romantic evenings, and that’s perfectly okay.
- Schedule it if needed – Spontaneity may be a challenge with a newborn, so planning time together can be a great way to ensure intimacy doesn’t get lost in the shuffle.
- Address physical discomfort – If childbirth has left you experiencing pain or discomfort, don’t hesitate to speak with your healthcare provider about solutions to make intimacy more comfortable.
Leaning on Support
It’s okay to ask for help. Accepting support from family, friends, or a trusted babysitter can allow you to carve out some time as a couple. Even if it’s just a short walk together or a meal without interruptions, having dedicated time to reconnect can make a big difference.
Giving Yourself Grace
Above all, be kind to yourself and your partner. The postpartum period is a time of immense transition, and intimacy may not look the same as before, but that doesn’t mean your connection has disappeared. It simply means you’re growing into a new dynamic together.
Rekindling intimacy after a baby is a journey, and there’s no right or wrong way to go about it. By prioritizing connection, maintaining open communication, and offering each other patience and understanding, you can nurture your relationship and growing family with love.
Kirsten Fisch, MSN, RNC-MNN, IBCLC, LCCE Kirsten is a women's health nurse who specializes in high-risk pregnancy and postpartum care. She is certified in Maternal Newborn Nursing, a board-certified lactation consultant (IBCLC), and a Lamaze-certified childbirth Educator. She works with women from conception through postpartum. Passionate about empowering women during their reproductive journeys, Kirsten combines evidence-based care with compassionate support to promote health and well-being for mothers and babies.
