As a new mother, the idea of exclusively breastfeeding can feel like the best way to bond with your baby, nourish them, and set the foundation for their health. But while many mothers begin with the desire to exclusively breastfeed, things don’t always go according to plan. And that’s okay! There are several reasons this breastfeeding journey can get derailed—some within your control and others beyond it. Understanding these obstacles is the first step in overcoming them.
Here are some common challenges that can interfere with a mother’s desire to exclusively breastfeed and how you can navigate them with confidence.
1. Latching Issues
Many mothers start off thinking breastfeeding will come naturally. After all, it’s a biological process, right? But for many, achieving a good latch can be a challenge. A poor latch can lead to sore nipples, frustration, and an underfed baby.
What to Do: If you’re experiencing latching difficulties, don’t be afraid to ask for help. A lactation consultant can provide guidance, correct positioning, and offer tips to improve your baby’s latch. It’s crucial to address this early, as a good latch will make a world of difference for both you and your baby.
2. Pain and Discomfort
Sore nipples, engorgement, or conditions like mastitis can quickly derail a mother’s plan to exclusively breastfeed. The physical discomfort can make each feeding session daunting, and it’s natural to feel discouraged when breastfeeding hurts.
What to Do: Pain is often a sign that something needs adjusting, whether it’s latch, position, or your own self-care routine. Using nipple cream, warm compresses, and adjusting feeding positions can provide relief. Don’t hesitate to consult a healthcare provider if the pain persists—it’s important to address it early before it leads to further complications.
3. Perceived Low Milk Supply
One of the most common reasons mothers stop breastfeeding early is the belief that they aren’t producing enough milk. This fear often stems from a baby’s frequent feeding or fussiness, but it’s important to remember that newborns have tiny stomachs and may need to feed more often than expected.
What to Do: Trust your body! In most cases, your milk supply will meet your baby’s needs. Frequent feeding, especially in the early days, helps establish a healthy supply. If you’re concerned, work with a lactation specialist to monitor your baby’s weight gain and ensure they’re getting enough milk.
4. Pressure to Supplement
Whether it’s from healthcare providers, family, or your own concerns, many mothers feel pressured to supplement with formula, which can sometimes lead to a drop in milk supply. While formula can be a lifesaver when medically necessary, it’s important to have a clear understanding of when and why it’s needed.
What to Do: If you are encouraged to supplement, ask questions. What’s the reason for supplementing? Is there another way to boost your milk supply? If formula is needed, remember that it doesn’t have to end your breastfeeding journey. You can continue to breastfeed while supplementing, and many mothers find a balance that works for them.
5. Returning to Work
The transition back to work is a significant hurdle for many breastfeeding mothers. Pumping at work can be challenging, both physically and emotionally. You may feel pressure to stop breastfeeding if it seems like pumping isn’t providing enough milk or your work schedule doesn’t allow for consistent breaks.
What to Do: Plan ahead! Talk to your employer about your pumping needs before returning to work. Create a realistic pumping schedule and ensure you have the right equipment. If possible, introduce a bottle before returning to work to make the transition smoother. Don’t forget to give yourself grace—balancing work and breastfeeding is no small feat.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Caring for a newborn can leave you utterly exhausted. The sleepless nights and constant feedings can feel overwhelming, and exhaustion might make it tempting to stop breastfeeding, especially if you’re up for multiple feedings throughout the night.
What to Do:
Rest when you can! Try to nap when your baby naps and don’t hesitate to lean on your support system for help. If nighttime breastfeeding feels overwhelming, consider exploring options like pumping and having a partner assist with some feedings or adjusting your feeding schedule to allow for more rest while still maintaining breastfeeding. Taking small steps to ensure you get the rest you need will help you continue your breastfeeding journey.
7. Mental Health Struggles
Breastfeeding can take a toll on mental health, especially for new mothers struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety. The emotional weight of caring for a newborn can make breastfeeding feel like one more overwhelming task.
What to Do: Seek support. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to talk to a healthcare provider about your mental health. There are ways to manage mental health challenges while continuing to breastfeed, but it’s important to prioritize your well-being. You’re not alone, and there’s no shame in asking for help.
8. Unrealistic Expectations
Many new mothers set high expectations for breastfeeding—whether it’s how long they’ll exclusively breastfeed or how easily it will go. When reality doesn’t meet those expectations, feelings of failure can creep in.
What to Do: Adjust your expectations as you go. Every breastfeeding journey is different, and it’s okay if yours doesn’t match what you envisioned. Celebrate the small wins, and remember that every drop of breast milk you provide is a gift to your baby, no matter how long you breastfeed.
Final Thoughts: Your Journey Is Yours
Exclusively breastfeeding may not always go as planned, but that doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Every mother’s journey is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Whether you exclusively breastfeed for a few days, months, or supplement along the way, what matters most is that your baby is loved, cared for, and nourished—however that looks for your family.
If your breastfeeding goals get derailed, take a deep breath and reach out for support. There’s always a way forward, and your journey is just as valuable, no matter what twists and turns it takes.